People suck... Happy new year

I have a friend who is having trouble right now but he can't tell what about.

I have a friend who recently found out that people he thought were his friends are not.

I have a friend who is struggling with his demons and won't be honest about it.

And I am such a good friend I write about it here instead of confronting them.

Why?

Because people are small minded self serving turds. For this reason those who might be able to help us are avoided because there is a better than even chance that if we were to our bare our souls those secrets would wind up... oh I don't know posted on someone's blog. Just an example yours truly would not do that. Or those to whom we might turn to for help are avoided out of carelessness and are slighted because, not because we don't trust them, but because we don't trust anybody. And they, being somebody, fall into said category of anybody and therefore find themselves fogging the glass of the peoples lives whom they would most like to help.

In short we don't trust each other. And we do this because long experience has taught us that trust is for suckers and for people who don't have any embarrassing things to deal with. Sure we could share our pain, but to do so opens us to risk and we are so risk averse that we would rather leave our spouses than be honest and God forbid find out some truth about ourselves in the process.

I do include myself in this.

So what we wind up with is a mountain of acquaintances and no friends and people go to functions that each other are throwing to be part of the crowd and they stand around in large groups islands leagues apart with no hope of ever touching each other.

And so sometimes people we love and trust get hurt and we can't help because those who do the hurting don't know or don't care that they are. Because sometimes the ones who are hurting our friends are ourselves, and they love us too much to tell us so. After all if we can't handle the truth from ourselves we certainly will not tolerate it from someone else.

ah look at all the lonely people...

Thank God for true friends.

I hope some of mine read this.

Just thinking...

about you all.